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This week, we are touching on something that’s very important to everyone who has become active, and when I mean active I mean persons who have had sex or are having sex. Many relationships are having challenges because the activities in the bedroom are fizzling out or are even nonexistent and the reasons are numerous (that’s a topic for another day)

I have observed that we live in such a pretentious environment where people would rather not talk about sex but they utter gibberish and speak in romantic tongues when they are behind closed doors having sex, bumping and grinding away. You hear all sorts of words while they are moaning and roaring (for the men), they make all sorts of promises and reveal all sorts of things, you find out that it is during sex that a lot of persons say things they don’t remember saying after all the emotions have dissipated.

After the satisfying sexercise, people revert to the pious look that belies the kind of emotional entanglement and rush of adrenalin that has taken place, we move on like nothing happened and live with the hope of going through the cycle again!
Who says sex is bad? When you officially engage in it, there is nothing bad in it and who exactly can define what is official when it comes to love and emotions? May be Morals is the only thing that can act as restraint when it comes to indiscriminate sex (that’s not our issue on the front burner today) because the benefits of sex far outweighs the demerits!

Recently I was at a gathering of women where the convener, Dr Nkem Okoro at that specialized training for Wives in Lagos emphasized that it was important for couples to have sex 3 times a day and she also mentioned that it was romantic to even give their wives other sexual pleasures.

Sexual pleasures kept ringing in my head and I quickly filled in the gap with a “Head” and you have no idea how that will sound to many, “Abomination” that’s what you hear from many men and women but behind closed doors, they yearn for it like there is no tomorrow and guess what? I will be sharing with you how one woman dealt with the constant refusal by her husband to stimulate her by giving her a head each time before they get down proper to having sex…that will be in the next edition o!

So what are the benefits of sex you may be asking yourself even though you engage in it? Sex is not only pleasurable and the benefits of sex range from slashing stress levels to lowering your risk of cancer and heart attacks that’s according to experts.

Just so you know, Sex facilitates bonding and feelings of intimacy with your partner because it gives you time to get to know your bodies better. The connectedness that comes with having true sex does more than make you feel warm and good, it actually reduces anxiety and boosts your overall health.

Did you know that the best antidote for a waning libido is to have sex! Having sex actually boosts desire and for some, pain and vaginal dryness may make it challenging for some women to have sex, but sexual activity like foreplay can help combat these problems and you will never know until you try it.

Good sex with a clean heart helps boost vaginal lubrication, blood flow to the vagina, and elasticity of the tissues, all of which make for better and more pleasurable sex just the way you love it!

If you are one of those who suffer from High Blood Pressure, Sex can help you lower it. Many studies have documented a link between intercourse specifically and lower systolic blood pressure, which is actually the first number that appears on a blood pressure test.

Let me also tell you that like every other kind of physical activity, sex helps you burns calories, and regular sex cannot replace sessions at the gym, but a having an active, healthy sex life is a nice way to get some extra physical activity.

Just remember that sexual stimulation and orgasm can help keep pain at bay because both activities can reduce pain sensation and increase your pain threshold. Orgasms result in the release of hormones that can help block pain signals, while some women say that self-stimulation through masturbation helps them reduce symptoms of menstrual cramps, arthritis, and even that nagging headache.

Do you always miss out on sleep? Well, sex can help you sleep better. That’s because orgasm simulates the release of a hormone called prolactin which is a natural sleep aide. Prolactin promotes feelings of relaxation and sleepiness. This is just one of the reasons you may notice that you have an easier time falling asleep after having sex but then remember to cuddle after sex so that you don’t fall asleep alone!

I have heard men and women complain about being tired and stressed after a hard days job, well, sex is a great stress reliever because touching, hugging, sexual intimacy, and emotional attachment stimulate the release of “feel good” substances that promote bonding and calmness so stop complaining and denying your partner the opportunity to feel good through sex.

The benefits of sex truly extend from head to toe I tell you and an active sex life might actually make your brain work better. Many researchers say that sex switches the brain into a more analytical mode of thinking and processing.

Let yourself go and stop holding on tight to sex when you have someone, your partner waiting to serve you just the way that you like it in bed!


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